Stay or Go: Listening to Your Inner Compass
In the third act of life, there often comes a quiet but persistent question: Is it time for a change? Whether the answer involves a move, a career pivot, or a shift in personal dynamics, this phase invites deep listening—to our own boredom, yearnings, and emerging truths.
This blog post explores the internal compass that guides us toward reinvention. From understanding the role of boredom as a signal to finding belonging in new places or new versions of ourselves, it’s about learning to trust the subtle wisdom that leads us into the next right chapter.
Boredom as a Signal, Not a Problem
Boredom isn’t always about a lack of stimulation—it can be a soul-level message. Often, when life feels flat or uninspired, it’s not because something is wrong, but because something within us is ready to grow. Boredom can be the first nudge that we’ve outgrown our current environment or version of ourselves. Instead of rushing to fix it, it helps to pause and ask: What is this boredom trying to tell me?
The third act is a time when many people realize they’ve gone as far as they can where they are. Whether it’s about geography, relationships, or routines, it may be time to look elsewhere to re-engage with life more fully.
Redefining the Concept of Home
Home is more than a physical place—it’s a feeling. During the midlife transition, many begin to question not only where they live, but how connected they feel to their environment. Sometimes that means realizing a deep desire to stay and finally feel rooted. Other times, it means acknowledging a growing disconnect and the urge to seek out something new.
This is a phase where the question “Where is my home?” becomes less about others and more about aligning with personal truth. It’s an invitation to create a version of home that fits who we are now, not who we used to be.
The Power of Better Questions
Big change begins with better questions. Instead of reacting impulsively to restlessness, we can ask more intentional questions like: If not here, then where? What am I really seeking? Exploring these questions with curiosity, rather than urgency, opens up space for meaningful answers to emerge.
This reflective process also helps to distinguish between true intuition and knee-jerk reactions. When given time and space, clarity comes—and often, it points to opportunities that feel both exciting and aligned.
Releasing the Need to Please Everyone
One of the major shifts in midlife is learning how to disappoint others in service of staying true to oneself. So many choices up to this point have been made with others in mind—partners, children, parents, employers. The third act is about re-centering.
That doesn’t mean becoming selfish; it means recognizing that being okay within yourself is the foundation for everything else. Not everyone will agree with or support every decision—and that has to be okay. It’s part of reclaiming agency and honoring your own path.
Why Masterminding Helps
Making big changes can be difficult without support. That’s where masterminding comes in. A mastermind group is a structured, intentional container designed to help people define goals, dismantle limiting beliefs, and move forward with encouragement and accountability.
Through regular check-ins, group feedback, and shared visualizations, masterminding creates a powerful energetic environment. Each person receives support not just in the form of advice, but in the form of collective intention. That kind of focused attention can be transformative.
Masterminding works because it taps into both accountability and inspiration. It’s not about solving problems in isolation. It’s about showing up for yourself and others, week after week, until progress becomes momentum.
Expanding Possibilities Through Connection
Being around others who are dreaming bigger helps to stretch what we believe is possible. When immersed in stories of reinvention, adventure, and risk-taking, we start to ask ourselves new questions: What if I could do that? What if it worked out better than expected? These stories act as mirrors and catalysts, sparking change just by being in conversation with what’s possible.
The third act isn’t about settling—it’s about expansion. And surrounding ourselves with expansive thinkers makes all the difference.
Resources
Listen to Episode 19: Stay or Go on Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts!
Key Takeaways
Boredom can be a spiritual GPS guiding us to growth.
Redefining home starts by reconnecting to what feels aligned.
Better questions lead to better answers—and more authentic decisions.
Masterminding provides structured, soulful support for life changes.
Choosing yourself may involve disappointing others—and that’s okay.
Surrounding yourself with expansive thinkers sparks inspired action.
With Love,
-Annie & Katie